Cut The Sympathy: Blame Lane Graves’ Parents, Not Disney Or The Gator

On June 14th at approximately 9:15PM, a two year old boy was snatched up by an alligator and pulled into the murky depths of the Seven Seas Lagoon, a manmade lake owned and maintained by Disney. Aside from being located on a resort home to multiple swimming pools, where alligators lack any presence, the parents of the gone-to-soon Lane Graves allowed their child to wade in waters surrounded by numerous signs prohibiting visitors from swimming in the lagoon.

It wasn’t a pool, a beach, or a lounge area. The waters of the Seven Seas Lagoon are off-limits. A “WARNING: ALLIGATORS MAY BE HERE!” sign shouldn’t be necessary to cause the mind, let alone instincts, of a parent to kick in and keep their child out of potentially dangerous Floridian waters. Sadly for Lane Graves and his parents, the decision to allow their child to head on in resulted in a tragic death.

gatorllage2Florida is a state barely above sea level that contains a vast amount of swampland. Walt Disney built Disneyworld in Orlando not only because the land was dirt cheap due to it being a fucking swamp, but in large part due to the combination of Interstate 4 and the Florida turnpike at the time. That, plus the neighboring airport, made this the perfect location for a business savvy man like Mr. Disney.

Regardless of Seven Seas being a manmade lagoon, it’s a lagoon nonetheless. A lagoon, to hold true to it’s legal definition, will always be connected to other bodies of water. Where do alligators live in Florida? Water. Simple. Added to the fact that Disneyworld boasts about possessing a pool with a 181-foot-long waterslide plus a water play area and a Courtyard Pool that includes a kiddie pool and whirlpool spa, the parents could have just made their child wait until the following morning to go swimming. And although the Seven Seas Lagoon is a 60 mile, hour long drive from Cocoa Beach, that was a possible option as well. lagoonollage
The media proceeded to jump down the throats of the parents of the child who fell in Harambe’s habitat, so why are we seeing an outpour of sympathy towards the parents of Lane? Because their child ended up dying? Because Lane was white? Because there’s no video for us to gawk at? It’s tragic, don’t get me wrong; but I refuse to show unabashed sympathy towards a death that could have easily been prevented. The fact is, a lapse of responsibility is what led to the fatal alligator attack on their two year old child.

Anybody who vacations, lives in, or visits Florida knows you do not swim in any outdoor body of water besides the ocean. It’s a damn shame that Lane died, but all of the unconditional sympathy needs to be put on hold for a minute and a concentrated look needs to be given to both Matt and Melissa Graves. To condemn the parents of the child who fell in Harambe’s pit and to pity the parents of Lane makes no damn sense. It’s a shame the kid died, but he wouldn’t have if his parents kept a better eye on him and refrained from foolishly allowing their child to enter a body of water that had multiple signs posted prohibiting entry.



'Cut The Sympathy: Blame Lane Graves’ Parents, Not Disney Or The Gator' have 9 comments

  1. June 17, 2016 @ 5:08 am Julie

    You are a fucking moron, the boy wasn’t even fucking swimming he was walking along the edge of the water a movie had just ended that was playing on that exact beach.. This was an accident that no one saw coming.. The parents did nothing wrong.. So how about you get of your damn high horse and ignorant ass and do us all a favor and kill yourself.. I’ll wait… Because the world doesn’t need someone like you..


    • June 20, 2016 @ 11:06 am Melinda

      As long as I can remember “No Swimming” has meant “keep out.” I have visited Disney more times than I can count. “No swimming” has always been enough to let me know that the resort did not want me in the water . . . I didn’t need to have it spelled out to me all the reason why they didn’t.

      My heart breaks for those parents, the loss of their son was an utter tragedy but it was not a tragedy of Disney’s making. “No Swimming” means don’t go in the water not in the day and most certainly not at night. I’ve been on those beaches countless times, indeed I got engaged on that beach at night and its dark. So dark in fact they were play movies outside on them. What body of water is safe to be in in the dark for a two year old- or eleven year old, or an adult? What lagoon is safe to go into? Who doesn’t understand that lagoons have more microbes than a cesspool (isn’t that why they closed river country?). Indeed, with all the boating that goes on I didn’t want even want my kid’s feet in it. “No Swimming” should have been enough.

      The problem I have noticed over the decades is that Disney tourists don’t think they have to follow rules – any of them. They falsely believe that its their vacation and they are free to do what ever they want. I mean seriously, there are tourists that have fed the alligators? Who does that? Who thinks that is smart? A sign says do not touch the coffee pot while its brewing and people drain the coffee because they can’t wait the 5 minutes for it to finish. Signs say no cutting in line and people fake meeting family members just to get ahead. A sign says “no swimming” yet time and time again people insist they should be allowed to enter the water anyway . And entering the water means the moment your feet get wet.

      The danger wasn’t on the beach where the movie was playing, it was in the water. Alligators are most likely not the only dangers . . . how about those microbes, or the boat oil, or the trash from all the tourist who don’t follow the rules. So there you have it, why does anyone have to know that an alligator might be in the water when there are probably a hundred other reasons why you shouldn’t go in it. “No Swimming” the universal language for don’t go in the water.

      I cry for the loss of that little boy’s life . . . its just that I don’t fault Disney’s that he is gone. I don’t really blame the parents either – tragedies happen.


    • June 24, 2016 @ 12:09 am Melissa

      Wow… kill yourself? Are you serious? You are straight up trash. You are just as bad if not worse.


  2. June 17, 2016 @ 9:45 am joe caberton

    This article is uneccessary. I’m sure that the parents feel horrible about what they did and will have to live with it for the rest of their lives. I think you have an interesting point about how race is probably a factor in why we shamed the parents of the child who fell into Harambe’s habitat moreso than The Graves, but don’t act like people aren’t shaming them, too. Shit happens, man. I’m not trying to downplay the severity of what happened or say that the parents aren’t accountable and shouldn’t have behaved more responsibly, but I don’t think they need this article at this point to tell them that. There’s a difference between having sympathy and having empathy.


  3. June 17, 2016 @ 6:07 pm bella

    you are 100% correct a great article that needed to be written for a two-year-old wading ten feet from the shoreline is technically swimming what 2 year old does lapse it was dark,Lagoon’s are dirty and your corrected all the pools and all the other amenities available in this luxury hotel they chose to be in the water at night what if he would have got bitten by a moccasin alligators are not the only deadly things in our water they have cotton mouth sometimes there’s deadly algae bloom in the water it sickens me that people just give these parents a pass and I think it might be because of all the reasons you stated because he died and because he’s white they will now be Multi millionaires because of their parental neglect and in a few years will probably have another child and this will always be on their mind but we’ll be living a decent life.Hopefully they will be more cautious parents to the next child. there’s no way they’re giving up Disney’s money they’re waiting on that settlement check.


  4. June 19, 2016 @ 10:52 am Linda

    Negligence on the part of the parents! Who in their right mind allows a child to wander AT NIGHT into any waters? Especially those that are marked “NO Swimming” and murky? That baby should have been sitting with his parents watching the movie. He’s what? Maybe 32-35″ tall and 30-40 yards from them in a foot of water?
    They’re the ones that were the cause of that poor child’s death. Had they kept that child close to them where he should have been this wouldn’t have happened. You can’t fence everything. I see kids running around all the time and the parents are busy yapping on their phones.
    At some point, people are going to have to start taking responsibility for their actions and their careless parenting.


    • June 20, 2016 @ 5:36 am tippy

      I wondered too why pen in a playpen your 5 yr daughter and not your 2 year old baby don? And why sit on beach and let your baby wonder around in the dark near water?


    • June 26, 2016 @ 12:25 am Mokes

      Are you a parent???


  5. June 26, 2016 @ 12:19 am Mokes

    Your article is so upsetting!! Disney is at fault 100%. they have a white sandy beach leading up to a lagoon with alligators!! They have lounge chairs at the shore of the lagoon portraying as if it where a beach. Very misleading, they also had a movie night at the beach. And let’s get one thing straight these parent didn’t let their son swim, he was wading in the water, do you not know what that means??? If you don’t have kids , boys like to explore. He was a toddler, I’m sure he was curious and his dad was with him while it happen! You’re judgement upon these poor parents is really sad. I pray a tragedy like this never happens to you. Lane’s parents did what any other parent would do, at least the ones that don’t think they’re THE PERFECT PARENT!!


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